As I walked through the front door, I heard two little voices excitedly yell from down the hall, “Dan’s home! Dan, will you come play with us?!”
4-year-old Gordon and 6-year-old Grace came running around the corner as they waved, “Hi Dan!” They had friends over, and were playing in the back room while their mother taught a piano lesson in the front room. Their eyes sparkled with excitement as they looked up expectantly, huge smiles spreading across their faces.
Taking me by the hand, they pulled me toward the playroom, “Come play with us, Dan!”
As they led me away, I smiled. It truly didn’t take a lot to make them happy.
While the concerns of life are important, they can ultimately serve as distractions if we don’t prioritize them and regularly take time for with those we love–especially children. Kids don’t worry about all the things we adults do. They don’t have any complex requirements that need to be met in order for them to be happy. Just recently, little Gordon asked why I had to go to work instead of just staying to play with him all day! I have learned from experiences like this that all children need and want is a little bit of time, attention, encouragement, and love. Whether or not they receive these can make or break a kid’s day.
As adults, we’re concerned with paying the bills, maintaining and improving our health, losing weight, aging, politics and happenings in the world around us, and any other number of interests that we might deem important. None of these things matter to children. The world is different for them than it is for us. All they are worried about is whether or not they are cherished by those they love.
Therefore, let us strive to give the children around us the time, attention, and love they need so they can flourish. Children will strive to recreate the world they experience growing up and, as a result, will make the world either better or worse. Kids will only think the world is messed up if we do. If we teach our children how bad the world is, they will grow to accept it; if we show them an experience of how the world should be, they will strive to create it.
Take the time to show your children how the world should be.
Play with them. Talk with them. Teach them. Encourage them. Cherish them. Love them.
If we take the time to show our children that we love them, they will blossom and grow exponentially. We must keep our priorities straight. We must take (and make) the time to show our children that we love them. They will see the world, and themselves, better because of it.
What could possibly be more important than this?
Thanks Daniel for sharing this story. Such a beautiful personal anecdote and lesson on making children a top priority. The most important gift we can give our children is our love and our time; when we do this, we have a greater assurance of them being happy and well adjusted adults. Quite a legacy to leave our children!
Gene Crawford
Georgia
Currently reading the book…
Children Learn What They Live
By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
(Below is the long version of the poem, there is also a short version that can be found by internet search… great words for everyone).
If children live with criticism,they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility,they learn to fight.
If children live with fear,they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity,they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule,they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy,they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame,they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement,they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance,they learn patience.
If children live with praise,they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance,they learn to love.
If children live with approval,they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition,they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing,they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty,they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness,they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration,they learn respect.
If children live with security,they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness,they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
Made my morning! Thank you! So true!
Thank you for your wonderful post.
My childhood was not one to write home about and I swore that if I ever had kids of my own I would be fully there for them; guiding them as they grow, laughing with them, sharing both in their joys and heartaches and above all loving them to bits.
Again, thank you so much for loving your kids and being their for them. I can tell you from my experience it means the world to them.