The heights by great men reached and kept were not attained by sudden flight, but they, while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the night. Henry Wadsworth Longfellow Part of being single is constantly having people around me who either want to set me up or tell me why men are stupid for not…
Author: Kylee Shields
The Art of Self Sabotage
I was huddled in a corner of the SDSU track field (above a parking garage) in torrential rain and strong gusts of wind, trying to figure out when my sister was going to be doing the Triple Jump for Utah Valley University (UVU). I was on the phone w/ my mom, who was across the…
To Love And Be Loved
“If so many men, so many minds, certainly so many hearts, so many kinds of love” (Tolstoy) Tis the season of LOVE. With Valentine’s Day closely approaching I thought I would share some of my favorite thoughts, quotes, ideas, etc on love. There’s something exciting about an entire day that focuses on people giving and…
The Gift of Choice
“At the center of our agency is the freedom to form a healthy attitude toward whatever circumstances we are placed in.” (Neal A. Maxwell) At ANASAZI, where I work, one of the key tenants is the importance placed on what we call “the gift of choice”—or agency. It is something very unique in the social…
Grieving
“There is no grief like the grief that does not speak.” (Henry Wadsworth Longfellow) As mental health professional I have had so many mixed feelings the last few days. The murders of children in China and Newport, CT have had a profound affect on me and many others. I have loved seeing the topic of…
Mind Traps: Redlining (part 1)
I wanted to do a series of posts to introduce some “Mind Traps” or ways our mind, and our fixed bias, can play tricks on us. Some of these mind traps are so simple but with the slightest of ease become deadly. In his article , “Deadly Mind Traps”, Jeff Wise outlines six ways in which we…
Live The Questions
I think one of the hardest things in my life has been trying to live a productive forward walking life when I have so many unanswered questions. There are many times when I just want to know what lies ahead, if things are going to be okay, and so forth. I feel a lot of…
O, To Be A Tailor
On a regular basis my clients leave the Tonto National Forest and head home. They worked so hard to become a new person—to give themselves and others—a new beginning. There is no disillusionment that things will be easy. They have become a square peg that will no longer fit in the “round hole world” they…
Different & Unique
The above quote, looking just like it does here, is pinned up on the cork board in my office. I don’t usually point to it or even talk about comparison with my clients in my office but I started to realize something. After a few weeks of working one client they mentioned the…